Break Me Off

Dealing with my own emotions is a pain. I'm an English major and still get stumped when it comes to articulating how I feel. The problem is that we are limited to the words that are allotted to us in our vocabulary... but that's a conversation for another blog entry. Right now, I want to deal with the personal issues that arise when deciding to break off someone from your life. While I do not believe it is possible to burn bridges with one hundred precent certainty, I do believe that it is possible to do so with feeling some sort of relief in the choice. However, when that feeling is no longer present, after the decision has been made, then you have another problem. Establishing yourself on the middle ground platform is worth discussing. And, luckily for your wandering heart, I am here to help.

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Breaking off from a relationship can be the hardest thing one ever does. (And this is not something that I am over exaggerating). No matter the age or amount of time spent with the person, it never gets easier. Dealing with emotions for yourself is challenging on its own. So, when you add someone else to the mix, it's understandable that your decision can seem to be a matter of life or death since someone else is hanging in the balance as well. There is a huge responsibility that comes with making choices that impact your life, and the life of another persons (which is why parenthood is nothing to take lightly). Simply considering the act of ending a relationship can be daunting; returning items, memories, gifts (or not), can be a long and painful process. But, if it must happen, then it shall, and all joy to your life will be restored. 

That's a bunch of sarcasm if I ever wrote it.  (see last sentence).

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I have made mistakes before that have led to me to change my mind. And if you're just as
indecisive as I am at times, and are forced to make a decision, it's okay to move forward with your decision and admit to making an error in judgment. But to be sure that you do not make the same mistake again, there are some things you should consider while waiting for the right answer to ride along the path that you are walking... alone.

Honesty

It is more than necessary for you to be honest with yourself at all times. No one knows you like you do. Your needs and desires may be expressed to outsiders, but no one knows what it means to feel the same exact way that you do about your situation. Paying attention to who you are listening to is crucial. If you are finalizing decisions about your relationship, and taking the advice from someone who has never been in a relationship, then I advise you to allow that person to talk about 'their ideals,' (things they are 'sure' about but have never had to put into action themselves), but remember your opinion overrides that of anyone else.

Recovery
Grant yourself time to recover from making the decision. This is an important step in any decision. While it has often been used with a lingering negative connotation, it is meant to be positive when I say, "You need to reap what it is that you sew." Not many people experience the result of their own choice. It is important for you to soak in the affects of your decision. It is only in dwelling on this platform that you will realize if it's best to jump on the next train in the same direction, or 'right' your 'wrong,' and purchase a one way ticket back from where you came. Either way, this experience will prove to be the perfect guide for taking the next step. Most importantly, this move was not influenced by anyone else, but done on your own accord.

Confidence

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Now that you have taken the time to be honest with yourself about the choice you have decided
to re-make, it is best to put those thoughts into action. Without action, nothing is really accomplished. Making moves towards what it is that you really want can be the most rewarding sensation your mind experiences. It is assumed that by the time you get to this stage that you are not the same person that you were when you made the first decision. You should feel prepared to make a change, and do just that.


With this being said, I leave you with a quote from Albert Einstein that encourages making a change. It is not explicit as to whether or not the change must be geared towards correcting a wrong decision, or not. What it does do, however, is approve of making change, because that is how our world evolves. Being apart of this world, it's only right that we change too.

“The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.”  ― Albert Einstein

Sincerely,
MM :)